The holidays can be a tough time of year to go through after the loss of a child, but there is also magic, joy, and peace that come with the season as well. Surround yourself with the things you truly love to do, the people who support you, and find a way to honor your child. Some of the steps in the holiday plan may not pertain to you or you may think “what does this have to do with any of it?” That is alright. If all you take from these steps are the ones that truly resonate with you, then you will still find the strength and courage you need.
As we went through these steps, there are a few that, to us, just don’t seem to matter. On the flip side, there are a few that have become really important and we have put into motions ways to fullfill them. Go through these steps the best you can; following what you feel in your heart, what makes sense to you, and what will help you most in the path of healing. Remember to go through these steps with your spouse, as both of you are grieving and healing differently. You will each have different perspectives on them. Also, remember to take time to honor your little and honor yourselves for all that you have gone through. It is a tough road to follow sometimes, but there is also light on this path.
Over time, the light will get brighter and it will get easier to breath. Take the steps one at a time, and if you can’t take a step on your own it is okay to ask for help. If that first step is too hard to take on your own, I encourage you to take the hand of someone who can take that step with you. Whether it is a spouse, a friend, a family member, or God reach your hand out and say “please go with me, help me take this step”. I promise you will make it through this. It may be a bit on the ugly side, it may not be easy, but you will make it through this.
I send you extra thoughts, prayers, and hugs during this holiday season. I wish many blessings for you and strength. I hope you may find some beauty and joy in the season. Your little angel will be near in spirit, holding your hand and guiding you through. Lastly, I pray for peace for you.