When we found out that Samantha’s heart had stopped beating and that we would have to be admitted into labor and delivery, I didn’t know what to expect or do. Not to mention, at that point I wasn’t thinking very well as the emotions that ran through me were so strong. I asked the nurse on the phone what we needed to bring with and one item she mentioned was a camera. I didn’t really think much about it, I just tossed my point and shoot camera in the bag as we walked out the door. I am happy to say, I am very thankful and blessed for that piece of advice. We were able to get a few pictures of our sweet baby girl. The nurses were great at helping take photos and doing different things. Things at the time I had no idea why. The only comment, “you may not realize it now, but down the road you will be thankful to have these”.
That nurse was right. We are lucky to have photos, as many who experience a miscarriage or stillbirth do not have the chance to take photos. We may not have many, but the one’s we do are a treasure. I know now that there are organizations out there of professional photographers who come in and will take photos of the parents and their baby. It’s a great service, however your little one usually has to be considered stillbirth age in order for them to come in. For those having a miscarriage, especially early on, we are left to not having any photos or taking our own if possible. It is my advice, that no matter how far along you are, take photos. Take as many as you can or have someone you know help you out.
We recently had professional photos done of Timothy and us. This is an opportunity we didn’t get with Samantha, so when the chance arose I jumped quickly at it. One of the best parts of the session was that we had family photos done…family photos of all four of us. Using some special items that were Samantha’s or reminded us of her, we were able to snap a few photos of all of us. The photographer was great and even before I got started in showing what we had for “props” she was asking if there items of Samantha’s that we wanted to include. I was in awe and felt blessed that she remembered, as well as recognized our daughter. She even asked Samantha if possible to send a real dragonfly down during the shoot. We didn’t see a real one that day, as our time outside was limited to small windows due to rain. However, while taking photos outside we were surrounded by all the garden art dragonflies that we have.
So, when you have the opportunity take photos. You can never have to many, as they all will be a treasure down the road.