Who are you going to be with?
The holidays bring about a time of year where you will be surrounded by people. For some people this will be okay, for others not so much, and yet others will have many mixed emotions or feelings about this. So what do you do? Take a moment to think about the people you will be around, whether for an extended time period or just a couple of hours. If there is anyone who doesn’t support you in your grief and healing process, then you may want to consider how you will spend your holiday time with them. Do you do what you normally would with them or do you change things up? This could be anything from changing the venue in which you get together or even changing the lenght of time you meet. Celebrating a holiday, especially the first one, without your little one can be tough to go through. Be sure to surround yourself with those who truly do support you and the process you are going through. Even if you are unable to get together with some of them during the holiday time, make sure to have a way to be in contact with them if possible. Each person, each couple will go through this differently and a level that they can handle. So, take the time to talk with your spouse and loved ones to keep them informed on what you are feeling and what you need. A piece of advice I heard from someone was to have a backdoor plan. Basically, an exit plans if things get to be too overwhelming. Create a code word with your spouse that either one of you can say if you find it necessary, then you can make your exit.
Fortunately, our family and friends are very supportive through all of this. We also are rather open and honest about it all too. So, we will be spending our time with family and friends. If it comes down to it and I need some space I can easily go for a walk, or if I need to talk there will be someone nearby that I trust that I can talk to.
So, who are you going to be with? What is your plan? Share below your thoughts, tips, or ideas.
