What does your heart puzzle look like? Mine is filled with Raun, Samantha, family, friends, the future, and myself. What is a heart puzzle? It is how your heart is divided up. For those of us who are more visual, like me, think of your heart us a puzzle. It is made up of different pieces of your life. Over time those pieces change. Just like any other puzzle, if a piece is missing it’s not complete. Likewise, you can not move another piece to fill that spot. Your heart is complete, whole, no holes. You may change the number of pieces or what they represent, but no matter what it will still be complete.
Holes, voids call them what you want. It is that inner feeling that you get when you loose someone close to you. There is a spot that never feels quite the same. Over time that void seems to fill back in, but never the same as it was before. It is forever change, but it fills back in. No matter what, there is still a part of you, a part of your heart that has been forever touched.
When you are expecting a child, an addition to your life, the pieces of your heart puzzle seem to gain another piece. When you loose your child through miscarriage, infant loss, or stillbirth you still have that spot. It is reserved for that special little one. It is only for them and nothing will replace that spot. When you grow your family, more pieces are added. Your heart is complete, ever changing, your life. The things you yearn for, hope for are what is in your future. Over time, you will take those things from your future and they will become a spot all their own in your heart puzzle.
When Samantha went to heaven I felt a deep void, a hole if you will. Over the past few months I have so desperately wanted to be pregnant and grow our family. To have that void filled back in. Having another child won’t fill that feeling of void back in. It will add another piece to the puzzle. What I realized recently is that in a way, that void has been filled back in. In the center of it is Samantha and what her little tiny footprints have left behind. It has been filled in by all that Samantha has taught me, the support that I have around me, and a new perspective on life. As much as I wanted to have the chance to raise our little girl, I know she is in good hands. I believe some day soon, I will have the chance to raise our children here on earth and some where in the future we will all meet again.
If you were to fill out your pieces, what would they look like? Start with you in the middle, make sure there is a spot for future, then fill in the rest with what is most important and brings the most meaning in your life. So, what is your heart puzzle?